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There is a growing concern by many leaders that being so connected and consumed with social media is causing many to become lonely including a surprising number of young people.
I had a recent conversation with a friend about the amount a time I now spend in retirement all by myself. My wife is at work and I have most of the day to myself and his question was I lonely? I responded no but I was enjoying time in solitude. He wanted me to explain the difference. I did with this answer.
I told him that I viewed loneliness as a sad and negative place to be with your mind and emotions. I viewed solitude as positive experience that opens your mind and emotions to how you might grow. We had a mild disagreement that loneliness and solitude are one in the same.
I didn’t doubt my answer but went online to hopefully validate my point of perspective.
So I found the following from various sources
Loneliness instills negativity in our minds and in our lives, affecting our thoughts and subsequently, our attitude towards life. Loneliness is embedded in a sense of inadequacy, it heightens the feeling of remoteness with those around us.
Second from Psychology Today
From the outside, solitude and loneliness look a lot alike. Both are characterized by solitariness. But all resemblance ends at the surface.
Loneliness is a negative state, marked by a sense of isolation. One feels that something is missing. It is possible to be with people and still feel lonely—perhaps the most bitter form of loneliness.
Solitude is the state of being alone without being lonely. It is a positive and constructive state of engagement with oneself. Solitude is desirable, a state of being alone where you provide yourself wonderful and sufficient company.
Solitude is much different than being lonely and I am glad I have the time to experience it.