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This post is not so much about being ENVIOUS as promoting the virtue of not being ENVIOUS.
Envy is usually a secret emotion. It always seems to be a comparison of you to someone else. It can often be fueled by social media in today’s world. When we look at tweets and posts it often can spurn waves of inadequacy within us.
Envy sometimes causes us to go to unusual lengths to work hard to improve ourselves or worst yet to diminish the others. We do this because we want to be their equal or better.
If you don’t know about the book here is a brief synopsis.
Morrie Schwartz the professor is battling ALS. Mitch, his former college student, visits him every Tuesday. Morrie must accept his illness and Mitch is trying to find the true meaning of his life.
Here is the passage that resonated with me that Mitch learned during his seventh Tuesday visit.
He has asked Morrie a question as the ALS began to severely restrict what he could not do basically leaving him to just speak. No other mobility was possible.
Morrie: Mitch what are you thinking?
Mitch: I am wondering how you don’t ENVY younger healthy people
Morrie: Oh I guess I do. I envy them being able to go to the health club or go for a swim. Or dance. Mostly for dancing. But envy comes to me, I feel it, and then let it go. Remember what I said about detachment? Let it go. Tell yourself, “That’s envy. I am going to separate from that now. And walk away”.
Mitch: How do you stop envying me?
Morrie: “Mitch, it is impossible for the old not to envy the young. But the issue is to accept who you are and revel in that. This is your time to be in your thirties. I had my time to be in my thirties, and now is my time to be seventy-eight.”
To stop being ENVIOUS accept who you are and revel in it. There is only one of you and just being the best you will be enough.