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Today my wife Mira and I celebrate our 39th wedding ANNIVERSARY in Las Vegas NV. It is far removed from the Church in the Pines in Laurel Hill NC where we got married.
At one of the wedding receptions earlier this month all the married couples were called out to the dance floor by the DJ. Here is that picture.
The DJ began to ask people married less than a certain number of years to get off the dance floor. He kept progressing to higher and higher years until the couple married the longest was left. My wife and I were at 38 and even though we were in select company we were not the last two on the dance floor. We had to bow to a great couple Finley and Ruth Read who have been married 62 years.
After the song ended the DJ asked the Reads (who happened to be the bride’s grandparents) to provide the bride and groom some marriage advice. Finley a legendary coach at Lumberton HS was spot on in his remarks. The photo above is of Ruth and Finley getting ready to have the microphone handed to them by the DJ.
My wife Mira and I didn’t have the opportunity to provide advice but here is what I would say has worked for us.
- Love is a verb, not a noun-Love requires action-it is not a feeling.
- Marriage is hard work-there will be times when one partner does 100% of a particular responsibility- it is not all 50/50.
- You have to find time for the two of you-We still have date night after 39 years and I am looking forward to date night this evening-we also have five children so it was not easy to do each week-both of us are grateful for friends like Marilyn Prevatte who allowed us to get away while she became a second mom to the Kenneys. Marilyn below in red sweater with my wife and I
- Compromise-you don’t need to give up your entire identity but you need give and not just take in the relationship.
- Friendship-make your spouse your best friend
- Communicate-Each person in a marriage has needs and feelings they have to be shared with one another, the relationship doesn’t stand much of a chance long-term if you don’t talk.
- Having a partner that is reliable, responsible, and honest.
I have been married for over half my life. It has been the best half of my life thanks to my wife, best friend, and soul mate Mira Gibson Kenney.
Mira Kenney-39 years still looks great on you thanks for given me the privilege of being your husband. I love you-Happy ANNIVERSARY