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I believe all of us go thru periods of life when we are searching for ANSWERS to questions we have.
There are also even scarier moments when other in our lives are asking us to provide ANSWERS to their questions. They trust us to provide them the correct response. That is a heavy load to carry.
Recently I have been flattered by being asked questions from friends on a variety of topics each of them daunting in there own right.
I began to think about the method I utilized to respond and came up with five categories.
- Let the question start a conversation-don’t begin to provide an answer get more context.
- Get them connected-Attempt to provide them better counsel usually someone in our mutual circle of influence who might have more expertise than I do.
- Attempt to share with them a similar experience I had and how it played out.
- Answer the question with questions
- My favorite response is to tell a story-one example is someone who was very frustrated at work because they did not feel they were making a difference. They described a certain behavior they did on a regular basis and asked me if they should continue it. I told them the Starfish Story.
There exist a danger to ANSWERS and to be honest I have been guilty of all three:
- Offering an ANSWER to someone who not asked me a question. Enough said
- ANSWERING a question with a long drawn out lecture that only results in them tuning out your response.
- That my ANSWER is in contradiction to my own behavior. When you lack creditability or exhibit hypocrisy no one will listen.